Be your own hero!

"Without roots the world just blows you around"

~ Unknown

 

 

 

In this world there are those who speak before they think and those who hold their words until they are played out in their minds. Those who let words flow far too soon and too often don't always realize what their words do to others. They don't know just how much they can break someone with their comments or judgments.

 

Those who think before they speak tend to know how their words will hit others. They speak in a manner that comes out as they intend it to. If there is any way that it could be taken differently they usually voice it.

 

I have seen too many people allow others to hurt them with their words. They let people talk down to them and criticize them for every little thing the offender wants to. Those being spoken to often let themselves become the victim. They let people "walk all over them" either because they don't want to cause any further drama or they simply don't know what to say.

 

If you ever find yourself the victim it's time to become your very own hero! Plant your roots and stand tall in the face of the storm. Simple tell others not to speak to you like that or walk away. You don't have to stand for those disrespecting you and you don't have to show them any "respect" by taking their angry words.

 

It doesn't matter who is talking down to you. You are an adult. You are old enough to stand on your own two feet and make your own choices. Don't give power to those who shower you with negativity. No one can save you if you don't want to save yourself.

 

I once saw a grown man talk down to his mother. He was yelling at her for bringing cold chicken. He continued to go off on her around others. Never mind that they chicken was cold because he showed up over an hour late without so much as a phone call. When I asked her why she allowed her grown son to talk to her like that she simply said "I don't know."

 

Later she told me that she thought about it and the next time her son attacked she stood her ground. She told him to stop yelling at her. If he couldn't talk to her like an adult that the conversation was over. It didn't stop him from still trying to unload on her at times, but she figured out that she didn't have to take it. Now she simply walks away! Next time your being spoken to in a negative or hostile way please plant your roots. You can't change the way people speak to you until you speak to them. Let your voice be heard!

 

All the best!

Stephanie